That was two of us.
But, her parting words to me: "You're such a player."
What is that about? Should I try to mine that statement for something positive?
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I don't think so. I think the lesson to be learned from this is that if you want a relationship, focus on that. If you don't, don't get involved.
If you want to party with a different girl every night, don't ask for numbers or dates cause that starts something. Even if it's just a possible relationship.
Honestly, dude, I think you dropped the ball here. I think you had something (possibly) but you got greedy. You had reconnected with your father, and then you started reaching for the grail, Indy.
I apologize for not saying something sooner. Or maybe I did, I don't remember. Either way, lessons learned. -Aaron
Aaron said it well. And I agree 1000000% percent.
As a friend, I don't want to stomp too harshly on your toes. (And I already did a pretty good number on them on AIM.).
As someone who has never been shy about calling them how I see them, I think you did 'Becca wrong.
Are you really a player?
I think the answer to that lies in what you learn from this exercise. I'd like to think, being as this "shocked" you and from my personal knowledge of you from being friends for a few eons, that you are a better person than that.
I'd like to think so, anyway.
For now, though, if the Jay-Z suit and the fluffy hat fit.....
AMEN.
I'm surprised Rebecca gave you this long, I'd have dropped you a lot sooner.
Yeah, I would call you a player. But if that's what you want your thing to be, then so be it. At the age of 26, I assume you are ready and able to deal with the consequences of your actions. I thought about speaking up and being the honest, even brutal, bitch I can be, but decided to let you hash it out.
The decision is yours, are you a player or a future boyfriend? I know the person you truly are, we go too far back for you to hide anything from me really, and I don't see you as a player.
I remember senior year. I remember prom night. I know you know what it is like to be hurt. Don't inflict that on someone else.
So, I was reading your latest update, and the Swami of Swamis (winamp) kicked over to Common Sense and "Never Give Up". I think that says it all. Find someone you like and who likes you, and go with it. Decide on one girl, amigo. Like Randall from Clerks once said, "shit or get off the pot." Make a decision and go with it. Hanging out in limbo and "playing the game" is for suckers who are too scared to be themselves and hide behind "the game". I've known you probably longer than most of the people here, hommie. You have the heart to make the commitment and do it. Chalk this one up to experience and use it as a learnign tool.
I think everyone above said it as well as I could and I echo that I wish I had the courage to say something sooner but I didn't feel that pushing my morals on you would have been received well. Based on the above responses perhaps I was wrong. Meh. Water off a duck. Dust off the shoulders. Whatever fits. Either way do what you know is right and stick to it.
If you want to play then play. If you want to get serious then play it right. Remember that the people around you (including the women you get involved with) are human beings with feelings. They - like you - can be hurt and they deserve your utmost respect even when they lose your respect and you have to let them go.
You'll be ok. Chin up and back in the game. This time try having a plan, and try not to get sidetracked on the way.
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